MISSED PLAN: KEEP THE OFFER SEPARATE FROM THE AGREEMENT
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Use this record for an ordinary non-urgent social arrangement. It is not
guidance for emergencies, abuse or persistent relationship difficulties.
It supplies neither the recipient's feelings nor a promise of reconciliation.

FICTIONAL CASE A: A KNOWN NEW TIME CAN BE OFFERED
Known starting facts: Alex agreed to Tuesday coffee at 16:00, forgot,
and now knows Rowan waited and went home. In this invented case Alex
really is available at the same cafe on Saturday at 11:00.

Complete proposed message:
"Rowan, I forgot the coffee we had confirmed for 16:00 and didn't arrive.
I'm sorry you were left waiting. I should have checked the plan I had
agreed to. I can meet at our same cafe this Saturday at 11:00 if you
would like another coffee. If you prefer not to arrange another one now,
I understand. Saturday is only an offer until you confirm it."

Record immediately after writing that message:
Old commitment: Tuesday coffee, missed.
Known consequence: Rowan waited and went home.
New proposal: Saturday, 11:00, same cafe.
Recipient's answer: UNKNOWN; the case supplies no reply.
Confirmed replacement meeting: NOT ESTABLISHED.

FICTIONAL CASE B: A MISSING NEXT EVENT MUST STAY MISSING
Known starting facts: Sam agreed to a Saturday 10:00 group walk, entered
Sunday in a calendar, and missed it. The group went ahead. No later
walk or renewed invitation has been supplied in the fictional setup.

Complete proposed message to the organizer:
"I put our agreed Saturday 10:00 walk under Sunday in my calendar and
missed it. I'm sorry I didn't turn up as arranged. I'm not asking you
to repeat the outing. If another walk is already planned and I may join,
please send its actual day, time and meeting point. I'll check those
details before accepting. If there isn't another plan, you don't need
to organize one for me."

Record immediately after writing that message:
Old commitment: Saturday group walk, missed through a wrong-day entry.
Known consequence: Sam did not join; the group went ahead.
New proposal: no invented event. A bounded question about an existing
possibility has been offered instead.
Actual next event / invitation / organizer's reply: UNKNOWN.
Sam's acceptance of a new plan: NOT ESTABLISHED.

BLANK TWO-STATE RECORD
1. The arrangement actually agreed (day, time, place and acceptance):
_______________________________________________________________
My actual mistake, without substituting a convenient explanation:
_______________________________________________________________
Known practical consequence; do not invent another person's feelings:
_______________________________________________________________

2. What I can honestly offer now, or the exact missing detail to ask:
_______________________________________________________________
_______________________________________________________________
My complete message:
_______________________________________________________________
_______________________________________________________________
_______________________________________________________________
State BEFORE a reply: ___________________________________________
Actual reply, only when received: _______________________________
New day/date/time/place actually accepted, if any:
_______________________________________________________________
My own acceptance still needed? _________________________________
Unresolved information or no agreement: __________________________

READ THE RECORD BACK
A specific new time is useful only if it is genuinely available.
A request about another walk does not make that walk exist.
Silence or acknowledgement of an apology is not confirmation of a time.
Do not fill the reply field to make the record look finished. A reminder
can support a real agreement later; it cannot provide the other answer.

PROVENANCE
Original worksheet adapted from this publication's
fictional article, "Correcting a Missed Casual Plan." Wording here is a
new first-party adaptation of its two situations, not actual messages.
No third-party form, quotation, image or font is included. This companion
is not external or independent verification of a real exchange.